From talking to J:

Me: Think of the computer as more a toy and less of a tool. Toys you explore all the parts and see what they can do. Tools you expect to be reliable.

J: i bet if you were here – you could solve this problem lickedy split
Me: probably. only cause I think like a computer.
Me: maybe that is why women are vexed by me? I need to find someone that can think like a computer and reach me at my level.